When recovering from one addiction, it’s important that we don’t jump into the arms of other addictions that can be just as destructive. According to a study by 2 London researchers in 2000, the MRI brain scans of people in the early stages of love were very similar to the MRI’s of those addicted to drugs and alcohol.
But love is healthy, right? Not necessarily. The addictive feelings of love can draw us into the lives of people that aren’t right for us. While the logical side of our brain knows that he’s been divorced 4 times and has never kept a job longer than 3 months, the primitive part of our brain that wants that fix of love tells us to go for it!
And while these feelings can be fun at first, they can also be destructive if the relationship begins to impact our lives negatively.
Are You Addicted to Your Relationship?
- Is your relationship causing trouble with your job?
- Is your relationship causing undue financial hardship?
- Are you or your children in physical danger because of your relationship?
- Is your relationship affecting your self esteem?
Part of recognizing an addiction is separating the facts from the feelings. If your relationship is impacting your life negatively, you’ve got to ask yourself why you allow it to continue and treat this problem like any other addiction or co-dependency.
Many women make excuses about why they can’t leave a bad relationship. Many say they can’t afford to leave or that they are afraid to leave. Are these valid reasons or excuses to continue feeding the codependency addiction? More often than not, it’s the later.
If you feel like this might be you, take some time to focus on your needs and about what actions you will need to take to stop your relationship from impacting your life negatively. A beautiful, healthy relationship is one where both people benefit and both people participate because they want to, not because they have to.
In order to achieve healthy love, you must first love yourself. When you love and respect yourself the way you want others to love and respect you, it’s amazing what changes you will manifest in your life!
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